Akhawaat

From the Manners of a Wife with Her Husband 
 

It is reported that the wife of Imâm Sa’îd b. Al-Musayyib – Allâh have mercy on him – said:

We only ever used to speak to our husbands like you address your commanders and leaders: [we would supplicate for them when talking to them] “May Allâh keep you right!”, “May Allâh keep you well!”

Abû Nu’aym, Hilyatu Al-Awliyâ` 5:198.

After the death of his wife Umm Sâlih, Imâm Ahmad – Allâh have mercy on them, used to praise her. He once said:

In the thirty years she was with me, we never had a single word of disagreement.

Al-Khatîb Al-Baghdâdî, Târîkh Baghdâd 16:626.

Marry the One who is ‘Religious’ and Be Successful

Yahyâ b. Yahyâ Al-NaysâbûrÎ reports:

I was once with Sufyân b. ‘Uyainah – Allaah have mercy on him, when a man came to him and said, “O Abû Muhammad, I complain to you of so-and-so”, (meaning his wife), “I am the lowest and most despicable thing to her.” [Sufyân] lowered his head for a few moments, and then said, “Perhaps you wanted her in order to better your status.” The man said, “Indeed, O’Abû Muhammad.” Sufyân said, “Whoever goes for glory will be tried with ignominy, whoever goes for wealth will be tried with poverty, but whoever goes for religiousness, Allaah will bring together for him glory and wealth with the religion.”

He then started to narrate to him:

We were four brothers: Muhammad, ‘Umrân, IbrâhÎm and I, Muhammad was the eldest, ‘Umrân was the youngest, and I was in the middle. When Muhammad wanted to marry, he desired status and married a woman of higher standing, so Allaah tried him with ignominy. ‘Umrân desired wealth, so he married a richer woman and Allaah tried him with poverty: [her family] took everything from him and gave him nothing.

I pondered their situation. Mu’ammar b. Râshid once came to us so I consulted him on the situation and told him the story of my brothers. He reminded me of the hadith of Yahyâ b. Ja’dah and the hadith of ‘Â`ishah. The hadith of Yahyâ b. Ja’dah states that the Prophet صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم said, “A woman is married for four things: her religion, her status (lineage), her wealth or her beauty; so take the religious one and be successful.” The hadith of ‘Â`ishah states that the Prophet صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم said, “The most blessed woman is she who is easiest to maintain.”

Thus, I chose [to marry a woman of] religion and modest dowry, in accordance with the Sunnah of Allaah’s Messenger صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم and Allaah gave me status and wealth along with the religion.’

Abû Nu’aym, Hilyatu Al-Awliyâ` 7:289, 290.

Note:
The first hadÎth is recorded by Al-BukhârÎ and Muslim. The second is found in Al-Nasâ`i and other collections but has been graded weak by scholars including Shaykh Al-AlbânÎ. However, scholars point out there is another narration that supports and adds to its meaning. This hadÎth states:

It is from the blessing in a woman that she has an easy dowry, an easy proposal [via her guardian] and an easy womb (i.e. she is fertile and bares children without difficulty). One of the reporters of this narration, ‘Urwah, said “And I say from myself, one of the first signs of evil from a woman is for her to have a high dowry.”

This hadÎth is recorded by Imâm Ahmad and others and is graded hasan by Shaykh Al-Albâni.

The Superiority of Remembering Allaah after Fajr until Sunrise

عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ -صلى الله عليه وسلم- « مَنْ صَلَّى الْغَدَاةَ فِى جَمَاعَةٍ ثُمَّ قَعَدَ يَذْكُرُ اللَّهَ حَتَّى تَطْلُعَ الشَّمْسُ ثُمَّ صَلَّى رَكْعَتَيْنِ كَانَتْ لَهُ كَأَجْرِ حَجَّةٍ وَعُمْرَةٍ

Anas ibn Malik (radi Allaahu Anhu) said, the Prophet (sallallaahu Alayhi wa sallam) said,

“Whoever prays Fajr in congregation,after that sits and remembers Allaah until the sunrises, following this he prays two rak’ah earns the reward of Hajj or Umrah.”

Collected by At-Tirmithi (579) Imam At-Tirmithi and Al-Albani (May Allaah mercy on them both) graded this hadeeth as Hasan. 586

Benefits for this subject:

• Imaam At-Tirmithi titled a section in his Jami called, “The Recommendation to sit the Masjid after Fajr until sunrise.”

• Out of the six books of Hadeeth on Imam At-Tirmithi narrated this hadeeth

• The two Rak’ah here are referred to as Salaatul Duha or Ishraq.

** An Issue specific for women **

Is the woman included for this reward if she prays in her house?

Shaykh Abdul Aziz bin Baz(may Allaah have mercy on him) said, “If  a woman prays in her Musalla then after Fajr remembers Allaah by Thikr or reading the Qur’aan until sunup then offers two Rak’ah she gets reward mentioned in the hadeeth. (Majmu Fatawa vol 11)

 

Shaykh Muqbil (may Allaah rest him in Jannah) said, “Yes she is. If a woman prays Fajr in her house and sits and remembers Allaah until sunrise.”

[Verdicts for the Muslim Woman page 121. 1^st edition printed by Maktabah San'a Al-Athareeyah 2007]

Translated and compiled by Abu Aaliyah Abdullah ibn Dwight Lamont Battle

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Wearing Perfume for Your Husband

It is reported that ‘Umar b. Al-Khattāb came out one Eid. Passing by a group of women, he could smell the scent of perfume from one of them. He asked, “Who is the one wearing this scent? By Allāh, if I knew who she was, I would do such-and-such (punish her). A women is only to wear perfume for her husband, and if she goes out, she wears her older (scruffier) clothes or the older clothes of her servant.” And so it was rumored amongst the women that the woman [who was wearing perfume in public] got up from that gathering having soiled herself (out of fear).

 [Ibn Abī Shaybah, Al-Musannaf article 6387.]

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Is the Home a prison for the Muslim Women?

Sheikh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-’Uthaymeen
Translated by Abu Fouzaan Qaasim

Question: Is there any advice for those women who believe that the home is a prison (for them)?

Sheikh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-’Uthaymeen, (may Allaah have mercy upon him), says:

“Yes, that which I say to those women is that the One who has made the house a “prison” if it is even proper to say that is Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic. The Most High says:

وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ

“And remain in your homes.”

(Al-Ahzab 33:33)

Also the authentic narration of the Prophet, (may peace and blessings be upon him), stated about the women: “and their homes are better for them”. The woman is free in her home, she goes to every place therein and takes care of the needs of the house and works for herself so where is the imprisonment or confinement? Yes it is a prison for the one who wishes to be like a man. From what is well-known is that Allaah, the Most High, has placed certain characteristics for the men as well as for the women and He has designated between them with regards to their physical make-up, characteristics and intellects. And we say to the woman who says that the woman remaining in her home is like a prison that she is in opposition to the statement of Allaah, the Most High, where He says in (Al-Ahzab 33:33):

“And remain in your homes.”

How can we consider what Allaah has commanded with to a prison? It is like I said a prison for the one who wishes to mix and mingle with the men and activeness. For indeed remaining in the home includes happiness, modesty, bashfulness and distance from fitnah (trials). Likewise in it is distancing the women from looking at the men because when she goes out and sees these men, this handsome young man with nice clothing and the likes she will be put to trial likewise the men with her.

So the women must fear Allaah and return to what their Lord and Creator and to what the Messenger of the Lord of all the Worlds, may peace and blessings be upon him, has mentioned to them and they must know with certainty that they are going to meet Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic, and He will question them: “How did you respond to the Messengers?” They do not know when they will meet Allaah. She might wake up in her home or palace and in the evening in her grave or vice-versa. Therefore these women must fear Allaah and leave alone these evil western ideologies. For when these westerns consumed these foul meats they left the bones and scraps for us after all the meat has been eaten. Now they wish that their women can return to being a true woman, like the Muslimaah, remaining in her home with modesty and faraway from places of evil and trials however that will not happen for them. Is it befitting for us Muslims, we have our own religion, our own mannerisms and characteristics to chase after them in their wretchedness?! Glory be to Allaah, the Great. There is no might nor power except with Allaah.