The Fitnah of Wealth Is More than the Fitnah of Children

Question posed to Imaam Ibn Baaz رحمه الله: The mentioning of the wealth always come before the mentioning of the children in the Qur'aan although the children are more precious with the parent than his wealth. What is the wisdom behind that?

Answer: The fitnah of the wealth is more (than the fitnah of the children). That is because the wealth aids him upon fulfilling the prohibited desires and other than that. This is different from the children. Indeed it is possible that the parent is tested by them and he disobeys Allaah due to them. However, the fitnah of wealth is greater and more severe. Based upon this, Allaah began with (mentioning) the wealth before the children.

Like in His statement:

وَمَا أَمْوَالُكُمْ وَلَا أَوْلَادُكُم بِالَّتِي تُقَرِّبُكُمْ

“It is not your wealth or your children which gets you closer to Us.”

(Saba 34:37)

Your Child's Morals & Attitude??

            

Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله said:

"One thing that the child desperately needs is for care to be taken with regard to his morals & attitude, for he will grow up with whatever the one who is raising him accustoms him to when he is small, & when he grows older it becomes difficult for him to change what he has gotten used to; these attitudes & characteristics that have become deeply ingrained in him, even if he tries to suppress them, they will always surface & expose him."

{From: Tuhfat al-Mawdood (240)}

Treating Children Equally

The Prophetﷺ  said:

“Fear Allaah & treat your children fairly.”
[Sahîh al-Bukhârî (2587) and Sahîh Muslim (1623)] 

 

       Shaykh Ibn Baaz رحمه الله stated that:
     "It is absolutely forbidden to show preference to some of one’s children over  

      others, and that it is obligatory to treat them all equally, males and females alike,

        in accordance with their shares of inheritance, unless they give permission   
                                              and are adults of sound mind." 
                            (al-Fataawa al-Jaami’ah li’l-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, 3/1115, 1116)

Educating & Nurturing our Children - Ibnul-Qayyim رحمه الله

“Whoever neglects and disregards educating his child that which will benefit him and leaves him to wander about with no direction has indeed wronged him in the worst way. The majority of children’s corruption has come by way of their fathers abandoning and disregarding them along with not teaching them the mandatory and voluntary matters of the religion. Therefore they neglected them while they were young, thus they didn’t gain any benefit for themselves nor did their fathers gain benefit from them when they grew up.”

Source: Tuhfah Al-Moulood pg.200

21 Points on Raising Children

      

by Umm ‘Abdillaah al-Waadi’iyyah حفظها الله

From her beneficial book, ‘My Advice to the Women’  

(Right click below to download the beneficial pdf file):

21 Points on Raising Children – pdf

How do we smack children to make them pray?

 

Abu Dawood (459) and Ahmad (6650) narrated from ‘Amr ibn Shu’ayb from his father that his grandfather said: The Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:

“Teach your children to pray when they are seven years old, and smack them (lightly) if they do not pray when they are 10 years old, and separate them in their beds.”

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Irwa’ (247).

Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy upon him) said in al-Mughni (1/357):

“This telling and discipline is prescribed in the case of children in order to train them to pray, so that they will be used to it and it will become their habit, and they will not forsake it when they reach puberty.”