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Your Hamm...! Sincere Advice to sisters

Umm ‘Abdillaah ‘Aaishah Al Waadi’iyyah حفظها الله (daughter of Sheikh Muqbil bin Haadee رحمه الله) said after the opening du’aa (via tele-link):

“O sisters, Upon us is to have mercy upon ourselves. Save yourselves from the Fire. There is no way out for anyone from the Fitnah that we are in now, except by sticking to what the Prophet (صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم) came with.”

Hadeeth of Abu Najeeh Al ‘Irbaad bin Sariyyah’ (رضي اللّه عنـه):

The Prophet (صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم) admonished us with an intense sermon which caused our hearts to tremble, and the eyes to shed tears. So, we said: 'Yaa Rasoolallaah (صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم) this is as if it were your last sermon.'  

{Aboo Daawood and others declared it Saheeh}

“There is no way out for anyone except by sticking to the Sunnah which the Prophet (صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم) came with. This holding requires submission, a complete submission. As believers, it is a must on us. We have to say regarding any command from Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى and HIS Messenger (صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم), “Sami’naa wa ata’naa,” (We hear and we obey), and not like the Yahood (Jews) who said, “We hear and we disobey.”

It is not befitting for the believing man nor the believing woman, when the Prophet (صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم) comes with a decision, that they have a choice after him.

“O sisters, the truth is very heavy. Falsehood is light (easy to accept). It is very heavy, except for those whom Allaah made it easy and guided them for that.”

Al Hadeeth: 

Jannah is surrounded by undesirable things, and the Fire is surrounded by desires.  “O sisters, it is upon us that we get used to submitting to Allaah.”

Umm ‘Abdillaah (حفظها الله) mentioned a poem:

“Your nafs are always wanting if you make it a habit. If you control and limit yourself, that is what your nafs will get used to.”

“Do not say ‘why’ to the command of Allaah.” Umm ‘Abdillaah (حفظها الله), gave the example of Salaat by saying; “Pray and get used to it. We are commanded to Fast, so you must Fast, make Hajj and ‘Umrah. HE, سُبحانه وتعالى, has made certain things compulsory towards the husband and we do not say why.”

“O sisters, it is up to us to preserve our tongues, especially because the Prophet (صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم) told us the reason why women are the majority in the Hell Fire. Be more careful than men. Women curse a lot and have many complaints. It is not a good habit to complain to this sister, that sister, to this one, and that one. Guard your tongue.”

Loving Good For Your Muslim Brother (or Sister)

Do Not Envy people for what Allaah has given them of His Bounty

 

Taken From: My Advice To The Women, By the Shaykhah: Umm 'Abdillaah al-Waadi'iyyah

With the introduction and review of the Esteemed Shaykh: Aboo 'Abdur-Rahmaan Muqbil ibn Haadee al-Waadi'ee
Pgs. 242-251

Musaddad told us that Yahya told us upon the authority of Shu'bah from Qataadah from Anas (radiAllaahu anhu) that the Prophet (sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said:

"None of you [truly] believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself."   - (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Hence, in this prophetic narration you find that the one who does not desire good for his Muslim brothers, similar to the good that he desires for himself, is deficient in his belief.

Al-Haafidh said, The intent behind the negation here is (a negation of) the completeness of faith, and negating the name of something conveys a negation of the completeness of it and this is understood from their speech as in the statement, "So and so is not human."  The word Khayr (good) is a comprehensive word that includes all of the acts of obedience and permissible actions related to both the worldly life and the Hereafter while excluding the prohibited things.  This is because the word Khayr (good) does not include those actions. (289) [End of cited speech].

How did the Sahaabiyyaat go about teaching their children?

A: Umm ‘Abdillaah (hafithahallaah) gave the example of Umm Sulaym, the mother of Anas (radhiyallaahu ‘anhumaa) who sent her son to serve the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) at a very young age.   He served him for 10 years.  He was not a slave.  Umm Sulaym encouraged Anas to be with Rasoolullaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم).  There’s no difference between the male and female student of knowledge. Umm Sulaym wanted Anas to get blessings and ‘benefit from the ilm of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم).  She wanted him to get practical knowledge.

Umm ‘Abdillaah gave another example: She spoke about the time when the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) sent Anas to do something for him.  He met his mother on the way and she asked him where he was going. He replied that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم sent him somewhere. Umm Sulaym then told him to never convey the Prophet’s secrets.

A poet once truthfully said:

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“One’s age is too short, to be wasted on worldly acquisition.

So benefit greatly from its hours, since its passing is like the passing of clouds.”

[Transcribed from: ‘My advice to women’ by Umm Abdillah al Waadi'iyyah]