Is the marriage of 'Shighaar' Haraam in Islaam??

Al-Imaam Ibn Baaz رحمه الله was asked the following Question:

The Question: I am interested to get married to my female cousin and she too is interested whilst on the other hand my male cousin is interested to get married to my sister and likewise the same for her. This is based upon the fact that the guardians of each family are pleased with it, (I mean both parents). The point is that all members from both sides are completely pleased with it and there are no conditions between us. Also, we acknowledge that the marriage of "Shighâr" is haraam. However, what we request from you O' Noble Sheikh, (may Allaah preserve you), is that you direct us to a safe and upright way (in performing the marriage), in order that the marriage be valid, so that we will be safe from falling into the marriage of "Shighâr" and from falling into sin and unlawful acts. Also, is it necessary that each one of the spouses gives more (dowry) than the other?

The Rulings of Puberty in Islaam

by Faisal Ibn Abdul Qaadir Ibn Hassan Abu Sulaymaan

The Meaning of Puberty:

Puberty ( البلوغ ) signifies the time when a child transitions from childhood to adulthood. At this stage, he/she becomes legally responsible according to Islâmic Legislation, which means their good and bad deeds will be recorded.

Imaam Ibn Mandhoor رحمه الله said:

“A boy reaches ( بلغ ) puberty: i.e. has a wet dream  -- it is as if he has reached the time of recording [of good / bad deeds] and legal responsibility. This is like that of a girl who has reached ( بلغت ) puberty”.

[Lisan ul-Arab]

 

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How can these hearts stop remembering Him?

Ibnul Qayyim (رحمه الله) said:

“If we look closely at the words of the Qur'aan, we will find a Sovereign, to Whom belongs all Dominion, and all praise and thanks are due to Him. All affairs are in His grasp, and He is the source and the end of all affairs. He rose over His throne, and no secret of His kingdom shall ever be hidden from Him, as He is the Knower of the servants’ souls. He alone is the Planner of the Kingdom’s affairs. He hears, sees, grants, averts rewards, punishes, honors, abases, creates, gives and takes life, provides, estimates, judges, and conducts the affairs of man. The decrees, whether minor or major, descend and ascend by His permission. Nothing can move, even equal to the weight of an atom, except by His permission; not a leaf falls, but He knows it.

..NEVER risk your religion..!!

It is reported that Jundub bin ‘Abdillâh Al-Bajalî رضي اللّه عنـه was once asked for advice and instruction. He said:

"I advise you to fear Allâh and obey Him (taqwâ) and I advise you to adhere to the Qur'aan, for it is a light in the dark night and a guidance during the day, so implement it no matter how much struggle and poverty you have to face. If a calamity befalls you, put your wealth forward to protect your religion, and if the calamity continues, put forward your wealth and your life to save your religion [but NEVER risk your religion], for the ruined is he whose religion is ruined, and the looted is he whose religion is taken. And know that there is no poverty after Paradise, and no riches after the Fire."

{Al-Dhahabî, Siyar A’lâm Al-Nubalâ` 3:174}

Sheikh Al-Albaani (رحمه الله)’s advice to the youth

“Listen my brother. I sincerely advise you and other youths like you, who stand upon a type of deviation – as it seems to us, and Allaah knows best – that do not waste your time in refuting each other, saying that such and such has this in him, and such and such has that in him.

This is because, firstly: there is no knowledge at all in this, and secondly: this mannerism only breeds enmity and hatred in the hearts, and causes contempt and rancour to develop in the hearts.

So It is upon you to seek knowledge.  It is knowledge that will make clear to you the reality of the speech which is in praise of a particular person having many mistakes, and whether he is deserving of being labeled as an innovator.  Yet why do we wish to delve into such issues.  Indeed I advise you not to delve into such issues.

Envy & the Eagerness to Have More

 

Abdullaah Ibn Umar said:

While on the ark, Prophet Nuh (عليه السلام) noticed an old man whom he did not recognize. Nuh inquired: What brought you here?

He replied: I came to strike the hearts of your followers, so their hearts become with me, while their bodies with you.

Nuh عليه السلام responded: Leave O enemy of Allaah!!

Iblees said:  

There are five things that cause people to become destroyed (deviated). I will inform you of three and not of the other two.

It was revealed to Nuh (عليه السلام) that he needed not know the three, but he should inquire about the two.

Iblees said: The two that are certain to work are:

The Three Men & the Valley – the Believer, the Hypocrite & the Unbeliever

It is reported that ‘Abdullaah b. Mas’ood رضي اللّه عنـه said:

The example of the believer, the unbeliever and the hypocrite is that of three people who arrived at a valley. One of them descended and passed through to the other side. One of them descended until he reached half way, when the third man on the edge of the valley called to him, “Woe to you, where are you going? You will die. Come back.” The man who made it to the other side called to him, “Come and be saved.” So [the man in the middle of the valley] kept looking back and forth at the two [on each side of the valley], when a flood came into the valley and drowned him.

The man who passed through to the other side is the believer; the one who drowned is the Munaafiq (hypocrite).

Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى says:

مُّذَبْذَبِينَ بَيْنَ ذَلِكَ لاَ إِلَى هَـؤُلاء وَلاَ إِلَى هَـؤُلاء وَمَن يُضْلِلِ اللّهُ فَلَن تَجِدَ لَهُ سَبِيلاً

"[The hypocrites] sway between this and that, neither [fully] with the believers nor with the unbelievers."

[An-Nisaa 4:143]

And the one who remained at the edge of the valley [not able to escape the flood and pass] is the Kaafir (unbeliever).

{Source: Ibn Abee Haatim, Al-Tafseer article 6144}

How should the hadeeth, “Convey from me, even if it is one verse”, be understood?

Sheikh Muhammad bin Saalih al-Uthaimeen رحمه الله said:

“When a person has knowledge and insight into that which he is calling to, then there is no difference between the one who has a great amount of knowledge, or a student of knowledge who has recently started in pursuit of knowledge or a lay person – as long as he has certain knowledge of the issue at hand.

The Prophet صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم said:

“Convey from me, even if it is one verse.”

[Saheeh al-Bukhari]

So it is not a condition upon the da’ee (the one calling) to attain a great amount of knowledge, but the condition is that one must have knowledge of what one is calling to. If this calling is established upon ignorance and built upon emotion and passion, then it is not permissible.

Thus, we see that some of the brothers who call to Allaah سُبحانه وتعال, they do not have except a little knowledge. We see them, due to their strong emotions, prohibiting that which Allaah has not prohibited, whilst making obligatory that which Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى has not made obligatory upon His worshippers. This is a very dangerous matter, since permitting what Allaah has made haraam (unlawful) is like prohibiting what Allaah has made halaal (lawful). So when they begin prohibiting people for making a particular matter then others will rebuke them for making it haraam.

In What Lies the Rectitude of the 5 persons??

Al-Hakeem al-Tirmidhi رحمه الله said:

صلاح خمسة في خمسة صلاح الصبي في المكتب وصلاح الفتى في العلم وصلاح الكهل في المسجد وصلاح المرأة في البيت وصلاح المؤذي في السجن

"The rectitude of five lie in five: The rectitude of a child lies in the study-room; the rectitude of a youth lies in (seeking and acquiring) knowledge; the rectitude of the mature, middle-aged man lies in the Masjid; the rectitude of a woman is in her house and the rectitude of one who harms others is in the prison."

{Al-Siyar of al-Dhahabi (13/441)}

As-Sarf Lesson 13

 

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Taught by: Umm Hyatt al-Ameriki حفظها الله

NEW LESSON

·       Every single verb must have a doer (the one doing the action).

·       It is not compulsory that every sentence has to have an object.

·       The doer could be a masculine noun or a feminine noun.

Example:     ذَهَبَ مُحمد الي الدُكَّان  - (Muhammad went to the shop.)

The verb is: ذَهَبَ  (to go)

The one doing the action is: مُحمد  (Muhammad is the Proper noun.)

Sometimes, instead of using the proper noun, we use the pronoun (he) in place of Muhammad. (i.e. the doer could be a pronoun).

Example:

ذَهَبَ الي الدُكَّان

(He went to the  store.)

In this sentence we don't have a proper noun to show who went to the shop. But we understand that there is a pronoun that is doing the action, which is hidden (i.e. understood) inside the verb. That pronoun is  هُوَ - 'he'. Therefore, the verb in its 3-leter root form (past tense) is always in the masculine gender 'he'.

Therefore, we don't have to say:          ذَهَبَ الي الدُكَّان هُوَ

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