The Most Hated Affairs of Shaitaan is the Bond between Husband & Wife

Narrated Jabir رضي اللّه عنـه   that Allaah’s Messenger صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم  said:

"Iblees places his throne upon water & thereafter sends detachments (for creating dissension); the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: I did so and so. And he says: You have done nothing. Then one amongst them comes and says: I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife. Shaitaan goes near him and says: 'You have done well.' A’mash said: 'He then embraces him.'"

[Saheeh Muslim – No: 2813]

Supplications & Prayers of refuge are like weapons...

Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله said:

“…And I often find that people supplicate with certain prayers and have their prayers answered, and they couple their supplication with their neediness and turning towards Allaah, or a good deed they carried out that caused Allaah to respond to this supplication out of gratitude for this good deed; or they happened to supplicate at a time in which it is more likely to be accepted, etc. So his supplication was answered because of this.

One might think that the secret was in the specific wording of his supplication, and might therefore approach it simply from this angle while ignoring all of these other things that were coupled with it by the person supplicating. This is like someone who uses beneficial medicine at its proper time and in the proper manner and it benefits him as a result, and someone else thinks that simply using this medicine regardless of these other factors will bring about the same benefit. This person is wrong, and this is where many people fall into error.

An example of this is when a needy person supplicates near a grave. So, the ignorant one thinks that the secret of his supplication being answered lies in this grave, and he does not know that the real secret is in his neediness and full dependence on Allaah. So, if this happens in a House from the Houses of Allaah, this would be better and more beloved to Allaah.

Advice for Muslims Living in the Lands of the Non Muslims

Question:  We are living as a minority in the lands of the kuffâr (non Muslims). Many incidents of verbal abuse occur here. For instance, you may be driving a vehicle and some of the kuffar use hand signals or yell out to you. Are you able to retaliate with the like of them, i.e., make hand signals back or stop the car to threaten them or should you have sabr (patience) so that you can also give them Da'wah to Islâm?

Answered by: Sheikh Abdur-Razzaq bin Abdul-Muhsin Al-Abbaad حفظه الله

The answer is as the Prophet صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم said: “The Muslim is not one who curses others nor is he one who is a constant criticizer nor does he have a filthy mouth or filthy actions.” ^[1] This type of filth that is done with hand signals and verbal threats/abuse is not to be retaliated with its like, because the Believer, as the Prophet صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم said, is not filthy in his actions or statements.

Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى says when describing the servants of Ar-Rahmaan:

وَإِذَا مَرُّوا بِاللَّغْوِ مَرُّوا كِرَامًا

"... and if they pass by some evil play or evil talk, they pass by it with dignity."

[Al-Furqaan 25:72]

Iblees's Deception of the women !

Imaam Ibn Al-Jawziرحمه الله  said in his book ‘Talbees Iblees’:

As for the deceptions of Iblees upon the women then they are very many. I have written a separate book just for the women (Ahkaam Nisaa). I have mentioned in it what is related to them with regards to all the acts of worship and other than that. I will mention here just a few words of the deceptions of Iblees upon them.

From that is that the woman will finish her menstruation after the sun has risen, so she will take the ghusl after the time of Asr and she will pray the Asr prayer only, and the Dhur prayer was compulsory upon her to pray!

From them are those who will delay the ghusl for two days, making the excuse that she has to wash her clothes.

Maybe she will delay the ghusl from janaabah in the night to the rising of the sun. And when she enters the bathroom she will not cover herself and she says:

“Me and my sister, my mother and my slave girl are women just like me, so from who should I cover up from?”

And all of this is HARAAM!

The student of knowledge is the first of the people to act upon his knowledge

With regards to the student of knowledge being the foremost to put his knowledge into practice, the scholar Muhammad ibn Saalih al Uthaimeen رحمه الله stated:

Upon you – baarak Allaahu feekum – is to act upon what you know because this is the fruit of knowledge.

What is the benefit of knowledge which the person does not act upon? There is NO benefit in it – rather it will be something harmful for the person.

By Allaah, the ignorant person is better than the person of knowledge who does not act upon his knowledge.

So the proof has been established against the person of knowledge who does not act (upon his knowledge) and the excuse has been cut off for him.

So, sometimes the ignorant person learns (something) and (then) acts; but as for the man who is a person of knowledge but he does not act, then his knowledge is a harm for him. Therefore the Prophet صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم said:

Be firm upon the Truth!

Sheikh Muhammad Ibn Saleh al-`Uthaimeenرحمه الله  said:

“Be firm, and do not change (your stance) because of the large number of attacks on you nor due to (their) being offended by your words. As long as you are upon the truth then be firm, for truth is never budged (by falsehood). Thereafter, defend (the truth) if you are in a weak position. There is nothing lesser than defending (the truth). But if you are in a strong position, then upon you is to attack (the falsehood). For the days take turns (sometimes in your favor and sometimes otherwise).

The origins of Wrongdoing

Ibnul Qayyim al-Jawziyyah رحمه الله stated:

The origins of wrongdoing are three:

1.     Arrogance: It is that which drove Iblees to that which it drove him (i.e. to commit that which Iblees committed).

2.     Desire: It is that which caused Aadam to be expelled from the Paradise.

3.     Jealousy: It is that which caused one of the sons of Aadam to transgress against his brother.

Keeping away from the indecent Mahram

Question posed to Sheikh ‘Uthaimeen (رحمه الله):

We know that the paternal uncle of the woman is from the Mahaarim (non-marriageable male relatives), those whom it’s permissible for her to uncover in front of. However, what is the case when the paternal uncle of the woman jokes with her with indecent jokes, is it permissible for her not to kiss him due to his indecent joking (with her)?

Answer:
If the paternal uncle jokes around with his nieces in a manner that’s doubtful, it is not permissible for them to go to him nor uncover their faces in front of him. That’s due to the fact that the scholars who allow that the woman can uncover her face in front of the Mahram make it a condition that there’s no Fitnah. And this man that jokes around with his nieces in a manner that’s evil, this means it’s feared that some fitnah will come upon them from him. And that which is obligatory is that one keeps far away from the causes of Fitnah.

What do we do when trials befall us?

"When the trials & tribulations fall,

hold fast to the Sunnah, observe silence,

& don't get involved in that which doesn't concern you

& that which is problematic  for you.

Return back to Allaah & His Messenger, stop & say:

Return The Blame To Yourself & Seek Forgiveness

Sheikhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah رحمه الله stated: 

'When you see the servant talking about the people who have harmed him whilst he  (the servant) doesn’t return the blame back to himself and seek forgiveness (from Allaah), then know that his calamity is a true calamity. However when he repents, seeks forgiveness and says, “this is due to my sins,” then this matter (of being harmed by the people) will become a blessing for him.'

{Jaam’i al-Masaa-il, 1/169}