Question: What is the ruling of the one who has good relations
with the people (outside) but is of bad character in his home, easily angered?
May Allaah reward you with goodness.
Answer: What is compulsory on a woman and what we advice her
with is to be good to her husband, because he faces many problems, unbelievable
problems. Yes, by Allaah! He faces the problems of sustenance, problems of
liabilities and other problems. So, it is incumbent on her if he enters upon
her, she should be good to him. She should emulate Khadeejah (radiAllaahu
anha) when the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) came
to her and complained to her, “I fear that something would happen to
me,” and she said to him, “Nay by Allaah! Allaah will never
disgrace you, you keep good relations with your kin, you help all,” and
she mentioned something of the character of the Prophet (sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam) and I advise the righteous woman to be good to her
husband.
There
are problems that the husband is faced with outside the home, perhaps she (the
wife) is not aware of them, but if he faces problems from the wife also and she
is a bad housemate, then by Allaah, it is a very, very bad situation.
Despite
all these, we advise the man to be patient, if the woman is chaste but of bad
character, we advise him to be patient, and if he is able let him marry another
wife, so she (the second wife) would calm her (the first) down, and what the
first wife doesn’t know, she does read nor write, and the second one can read
and write. So, the first one can take her notebook and go and learn the writing
and reading. And if it is the case (that he is alone), then he must calm her
down alone and Allaah’s aid is sought.
[Source: “Last Journey of Imam Muqbil Ibn Hadee Al-Wadee” By
His wife, Umm Salamah As.Salafiyah |Translated by brother: Abu Humairah
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