رَبِّ ابْنِ لِى عِندَكَ بَيْتاً فِى الْجَنَّةِ
'My Lord! Build for me a home with You in Jannaah'
(At-Tahreem 66:11)


Thursday, December 18, 2014

Friends in Islaam


One of the greatest things that helps the Muslim to have piety and uprightness on the path of truth and guidance is keeping the company of good people and avoiding evil company, for man, by his nature, gets influenced by his friends and companions and adopts their characters and manners. 

Also, man’s character is known through his brothers and friends as pointed out by the Prophet when he said, 

A man is on the religion of his friend, so let every one of you examine whom he befriends.
(Reported by Abu Dawood)
There is no wonder then that Islaam shows great concern on the matter of companionship and friendship so much so that the Prophet -peace be upon him- directed every Muslim to select only righteous and pious people as friends and companions. He said, 

Do not befriend except the believer and nobody should eat your food (with you) except the pious.”
(Reported by Abu Dawood)
 
There is no doubt that the Muslim is influenced by his friend, especially if he loves his friend dearly, because that love makes him turn a blind eye to his friend’s sins and errors, and it may lead him to admire him to such an extent that he begins to imitate him in everything, even the way he walks. This is something that is seen a great deal and no one can deny it.
Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى says, 

وَيَوْمَ يَعَضُّ الظَّالِمُ عَلَى يَدَيْهِ يَقُولُ يَا لَيْتَنِي اتَّخَذْتُ مَعَ الرَّسُولِ سَبِيلًا
يَا وَيْلَتَى لَيْتَنِي لَمْ أَتَّخِذْ فُلَانًا خَلِيلًا
يَا وَيْلَتَى لَيْتَنِي لَمْ أَتَّخِذْ فُلَانًا خَلِيلًا

And (remember) the Day when the wrongdoer will bite at his hands, he will say: O! Would that I had taken a path with the Messenger (Muhammad). Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken so–and–so as a friend. He indeed led me astray from the reminder (the Qur’aan) after it had come to me. And Satan is ever a deserter to man in the hour of need.”
(Al–Furqaan 25: 27–29)
You should understand that this friendship will turn to enmity on the Day of Resurrection, because this friendship was not based on adhering to the laws of Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى and obeying Him.

And Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى says:

الْأَخِلَّاء يَوْمَئِذٍ بَعْضُهُمْ لِبَعْضٍ عَدُوٌّ إِلَّا الْمُتَّقِينَ
Friends on that Day will be foes one to another except Al-Muttaqoon (the pious.)”
[az-Zukhruf 43:67]

Al-Qurtubi (رحمه الله) said:

Friends on that Day” i.e., the Day of Resurrection “will be foes one to another,” i.e., they will be enemies to one another and will curse one another “except Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)” who will be friends in this world and in the Hereafter."
{End quote from Tafseer al-Qurtubi, 16/95}

Ibn Katheer (رحمه الله) said in his Tafseer (7/237):

'That is, every friendship that was for the sake of anything other than Allaah will on the Day of Resurrection, turn into enmity, except for that which was for the sake of Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted; it will last forever.'

What the Muslim must do is to keep away from bad companions and choose righteous friends who will guide him towards what is good and help him to obey his Lord, سُبحانه وتعالى.

It was narrated that Abu Moosa al-Ash‘ari (رضي اللّه عنـه) said:

'The Messenger of Allaah (صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم) said: “The likeness of a good companion and a bad companion is that of one who carries musk and one who works the bellows. With the carrier of musk, either he will give you some or you will buy some from him, or you will notice a good smell from him; as for the one who works the bellows, either he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell from him.”
[Narrated by al-Bukhaari & Muslim]

Al–Haafiz ibn Hajar رحمه الله, while commenting on this hadeeth said,

There is in this hadeeth prohibition of keeping the company of those who can harm one in religious and worldly matters; and an encouragement for keeping the company of those who can benefit one in these matters.”

So, one should strive to find good companions and keep away from bad companions, for a friend will have an impact on his friends.

‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (رضي اللّه عنـه) said:

You should seek sincere brothers, for they are an adornment at times of ease and a support at times of Calamity."

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