Imaam Ibnul-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
“And the cure for this deadly illness (i.e.
love before marriage) is for the person that is afflicted to realize that this
love is only due to his/her own delusions and ignorance.
So, upon such a person is to first and
foremost strengthen their Tawheed and reliance upon Allaah, and secondly to
increase in worship and busy themselves with it, so much so that they do not
have any spare time to let their minds wander and think about their beloved.
And they should call upon Allaah to protect
them and save them from this evil, just as Prophet Yusuf called upon Allaah and
he was saved. And they should do as he did, be as he was, in terms of ikhlâs
(sincerity) and remembering Allaah in abundance.
This is because if the heart is filled with
ikhlâs for the sake of Allaah, there will be no space left for any
unlawful love to be present, rather this only happens to a heart that is empty
and has no ikhlâs whatsoever.
And let such people remind themselves that
whatever Allaah has decreed for them is only in their own best interests; and
when Allaah commands something it is never to cause harm or misery to His
slaves.
And let them also remind themselves that
their unlawful love does not benefit them, neither in this world or the
hereafter! As for this world then they will be so preoccupied with their love
that it will cripple them and will cause them to live in a fantasy world. And
as for the hereafter then it will cause them to be preoccupied with the love of
the creation instead of love for the Creator!
These people need to be reminded, that the
one who is immersed in something will never see its ill effects, neither will
the person who has never experienced such things. The only people who will be
able to relate to them are those who have experienced the same thing but have
been saved. Such people can look back and realize how evil it is.”
{Ad-Daa’ wa ad-Dawaa pg.300}
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