How to attain 'Husnul Khuluq' - (Good Morals, Manners & character)?

Know, certainly that having good morals have always been connected to the descriptions of the Prophets and righteous people in general. This should be an encouragement for us to follow them.

Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى has described Prophet صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم in His Noble Book:

وَإِنَّكَ لَعَلى خُلُقٍ عَظِيمٍ

'And verily, you (O Muhammad صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم) are on an exalted standard of character.'

(Al-Qalam 68:4)

إِنَّك  - shows emphasis i.e. emphasizing that Prophet Muhammad's character was extremely great. Here, Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى is speaking about Prophet صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم. 

He رحمه الله mentions in his book "Madarij As-Salikeen" that for a person to be blessed with a good heart, he should first make dua. It is not possible for a person to be described as having 'Husnul Khuluq' (having good character & morals), unless the following FOUR characteristics (pillars) are present:

 

1   ** صَبر (Sabr - being patient): This aids a person to control his anger, tongue and control himself physically. The definition of patience is 'to control oneself.' It is difficult for some to control their emotions in certain situations. It can be overwhelming for them;

(Extract from Mukhtasar Minhaj al-Qasiden by Ibn Qudamah Al-Maqdisi)

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That which describes a woman when she is ALIVE is Worse & Worse!

 

                                                      

Sheikh Al-Albâni رحمه الله

‘… Transmitted by Umm Ja’far bint Muhammad bin Ja’far that Faatimah رضي الله عنها, the daughter of the Messenger of Allaah صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم said: ‘O Asmaa’, I am repulsed by what is done to the women – at the time of death – when they lay a piece of cloth over the woman that describes her shape.”

Asmaa’ responded: “O daughter of the Messenger of Allaah صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم should I not show you something that I saw done in Abyssinia?”

Why worry when Allaah has undertaken our RIZQ !!

Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى says:

إِنَّ اللَّهَ هُوَ الرَّزَّاقُ ذُو الْقُوَّةِ الْمَتِينُ
'Verily, Allâh is the All-Provider, Owner of Power, the Most Strong.'

(Adh-Dhariyat 51:58)

Allaah  says that He is الرَّزَّاقُ, the One Who Provides, and الرَّزَّاقُ shows emphasis that He is the ONLY Provider and that everything turns to Him for their provision. When Allaah has undertaken to provide us our rizq, then it is upon us to busy ourselves with worshiping Him as worshiping and fulfilling the purpose for that which we were created brings immense benefit to us.

Allaah is stressing that He is  الرَّزَّاقُ and our provision is already written for us. Why busy ourselves with that which is already written for us? What we find is that mankind in general is busy with that which Allaah has given them and that which He سُبحانه وتعالى is responsible for. 

(Extract from: Kanzul Athfaa (Children's Treasure) - Lesson 4)

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Faa'ida regarding Ibaadah

Sharing what I benefited from Umm Hyatt حفظه الله's last Dars....

Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله mentioned that there are two conditions that must be present in order for a particular action to be considered ibādah.

1.     The first is 'Muhabbah' -- love for Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى;

2.     Second is 'Humility' (humble yourself before the Lord of the 'Aalameen.)

Note:

If one of these conditions are missing, then that action is NOT considered ibādah. We cannot worship Allaahسُبحانه وتعالى  if we don't have love for him and have kibr (pride).

                                                  

How many of us have been praying, fasting and doing various ibaadah without knowing the conditions of ibaadah?? Alhamdulillaah seeking ilm is the first step to erase ignorance from oneself bi'idnillaahi ta'ala.
Indeed knowledge is praiseworthy and ignorance is blameworthy!! Alhamduillaah, All the Praise is due to the Rabbil Aa'lameen for giving us the opportunity to continue our journey of seeking ilm even if we had to leave Dammaj. Qadr Allaah! There is indeed khair in everything that Allaah has decreed for a believer!

Precious Advice!

 

Imaam as-Sa'dy رحمه الله said:

'Whoever's aim in making du'ā (supplication) is to get closer to Allāh by way of the du'ā (a type of worship) and to attain his request (what he supplicated for), then he is more complete than many who only intend with their du'ā  attainment of what their supplicating for.  And this is from the fruit of beneficial knowledge, for indeed ignorance prevents many of the creation from [making] lofty intentions and beautiful means [of attaining goodness]."

{Source: al-Fatāwā as-Sa'diyyah, page 51}

DON'T look down at people

A statement written in ink of gold...

Ibnul-Qayyim رحمه الله said: 

"If Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى opens for you (gives you success to doing that action) the door of standing for the night prayer, then DO NOT look at those who are sleeping with a look of disdain. 

And if Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى opens for you the door of fasting then DO NOT look at those who break their fast with a look of disdain.

And if Allaah سُبحانه وتعالى opens for you the door of jihad then DO NOT look at those who sit and do not participate with a look of disdain. 

Maybe the one who sleeps, breaks his fast and sits is CLOSER to Allaah than you! 

Ibnul-Qayyim رحمه الله said: 

Friends in Islaam

One of the greatest things that helps the Muslim to have piety and uprightness on the path of truth and guidance is keeping the company of good people and avoiding evil company, for man, by his nature, gets influenced by his friends and companions and adopts their characters and manners. 

Also, man’s character is known through his brothers and friends as pointed out by the Prophet when he said, 

“A man is on the religion of his friend, so let every one of you examine whom he befriends.”

(Reported by Abu Dawood)

An Insult with a Gift (Backbiting)

 It is reported that ‘Abd Al-Rahmān b. Mahdī  (Allāh have mercy on him) said, “If it were not for the fact I hate that Allaah is disobeyed, I would have wished that no one remain in this city except that he had spoken ill of me & backbitten me; for what is nicer than a good deed a man finds in his records on the Day of Resurrection without having done a thing or even having known?”

Abū Nu’aym, Hilyatu Al-Awliyā` 4:45.

What is the cure for the one who has illness in his heart or a deficiency in Eemaan?

 

Sheikh Muhammad Ibraheem Al-Misree حفظه الله:

Ibnul-Qayyim رحمه الله says:

“For the tongue DOES NOT keep quiet at all. It is either a tongue that remembers or a tongue that is frivolous and it has to be one of these two.

It is the (nature of the) SOUL that if you do not preoccupy it with truth, it will occupy you with falsehood. It is the (nature of the) HEART that if you do not accommodate it with love of Allaah, it will dwell with love of creation and this is a certain reality. It is the (nature of the) TONGUE that if you do not preoccupy it with remembrance, it will most definitely occupy you with frivolity.

Thus, choose for your own self one of the two courses and confer upon it one of the two standings.”

[Al-Waabil as-Sayyib | Pgs. 166-167 | Ibnul-Qayyim رحمه الله. Transcribed from: Causes behind the increase and decrease of Eemaan | Sheikh ‘Abdur-Razzaaq bin Imaam 'Abdul-Muhsin al-‘Abbaad]

Beautiful Hadith about Patience

Narrated Abu Huraira that  Allaah’s Messenger صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم said,

“The example of a believer is that of a fresh tender plant; from whatever direction the wind comes, it bends it, but when the wind becomes quiet, it becomes straight again. Similarly, a believer is afflicted with calamities (but he remains patient till Allaah removes his difficulties.) And an impious wicked person is like a pine tree which keeps hard and straight till Allaah cuts (breaks) it down when He wishes.”

(Bukhari)