“Don’t get angry”

“Oh Muslims! Verily it has been authentically reported on The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ that a man said to him, “Give me advice Oh Messenger of Allaah!” So he replied, “Don’t get angry,” & then he repeated it, “Don’t get angry.” Anger is an ember that Shaytan lights in the heart of the son of Adam; for that reason his jugular veins expand, his face turns red, his eyes enlarge, & his hair stands up. All of these things are from the anger that Shaytan cast into the heart until his blood boils.

Oh Muslims! If a person becomes angry then it is necessary for him to take the means that prevent you from getting angry. So, you make Wudu (legislative ablution), if he is standing sit down, & if he is sitting down lay down. If he is somewhere, then he should go somewhere else so that his anger can subside; as what came in the Prophetic statement of the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ & that which he allowed to take place.

Verily, it is saddening that some people, if they get slightly angered he gets angry at his family & divorces his wife. Maybe the divorce took place, then, he goes to & bothers the scholars, asking one after another; if he was given a Fatwa (legislative ruling) that doesn’t appease him he goes to another scholar. Like this, they follow the license of the scholars for what he did to himself. Therefore, it is necessary for the person of [sound] intellect to control himself when he is angry as The Prophet ﷺ guided to in his statement, 

"The strong man is not [measured] with fighting; rather, the strong man is the one who controls himself at the time of anger.” 

i.e., The strong man is not the one if he fights he beats his component, but, the one who fights himself and controls himself at the time of anger, doing nothing that could make him dislike happens. So, this issue is very dangerous for those people who get angry & divorce their women. Then, maybe her divorce becomes final & it is upon them to control themselves, be determined, & strong until they can bring tranquility to themselves. Therefore, the person if becomes easy going, controls himself at the time of anger, & increases his strength in that, then this will become his nature; if he gets angry, he doesn’t do the things that his anger calls to.

Therefore, fear Allaah Oh servants of Allaah, attribute yourselves with noble character, & rebuke wretched character.”

Taken from: The second half of one of Sheikh Muhammad bin Salih Al-Uthaymeen‘s Khutbahs found at: http://www.ibnothaimeen.com/all/khotab/article_536.shtml